Better Than Chocolate

Posted in Love and Relationships

I heard a commercial on the radio the other day, that said, in part, “Everyone knows that it’s a good idea to give your sweetheart something on Valentines’ Day, especially if you want to keep them as your sweetheart.” It was a commercial for chocolates, one of the traditional staples for the Day. I’ve been…

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Too Picky? Or Just Settling.

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A woman I know dismissed a potential relationship candidate because she judged his style of hailing a cab “wimpy.” Is that too picky? I say it depends on what she requires in a relationship. By “…in a relationship,” I am not referring to who she thinks her ideal mate will be. I’m speaking of the…

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Relationship Tension: Whose Fault Is It?

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Who is the partner at fault in your relationship? Under what circumstances would you say that your relationship is thriving? This is one of the first questions I pose to couples I’m beginning to work with. Frequently, the response I hear is something like, “If s/he would just do/be/act (fill in the blank).” Relationship is…

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“Playing Games” in Relationships



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Happy Valentine’s Day! Today we’re blogging as part of the LOVE SPARKS BLOGGING FESTIVAL. Take a heart-filled meander over at allislistening.com for a parade of bloggers and coaches and thinkers expounding on our favorite subject: love. “Playing Games” in relationships Do you abhor game playing in relationships? I recently reflected with a client how he…

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Blame and Judgment: Hobgoblins of Loving Relationships

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We all know that cheating and lying will violate trust in a relationship.  But there are also a couple of other critters guaranteed to erode trust over time:  Blame and Judgment. Mastering these two beasts was one of the most important relationship lessons I ever learned. In the interest of saving you heartache, regret and…

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