Love and Relationships

I heard a commercial on the radio the other day, that said, in part, “Everyone knows that it’s a good idea to give your sweetheart something on Valentines’ Day, especially if you want to keep them as your sweetheart.” It was a commercial for chocolates, one of the traditional staples for the Day. I’ve been…

A woman I know dismissed a potential relationship candidate because she judged his style of hailing a cab “wimpy.” Is that too picky? I say it depends on what she requires in a relationship. By “…in a relationship,” I am not referring to who she thinks her ideal mate will be. I’m speaking of the…

Who is the partner at fault in your relationship? Under what circumstances would you say that your relationship is thriving? This is one of the first questions I pose to couples I’m beginning to work with. Frequently, the response I hear is something like, “If s/he would just do/be/act (fill in the blank).” Relationship is…

Happy Valentine’s Day! Today we’re blogging as part of the LOVE SPARKS BLOGGING FESTIVAL. Take a heart-filled meander over at allislistening.com for a parade of bloggers and coaches and thinkers expounding on our favorite subject: love. “Playing Games” in relationships Do you abhor game playing in relationships? I recently reflected with a client how he…

We all know that cheating and lying will violate trust in a relationship.  But there are also a couple of other critters guaranteed to erode trust over time:  Blame and Judgment. Mastering these two beasts was one of the most important relationship lessons I ever learned. In the interest of saving you heartache, regret and…

The other evening, my husband and I had another couple over for dinner. My friend asked if I’d show her The Relating Game, which, of course, I was delighted to do. Then she said, “Oh, show us how to play.” So I walked her and her beloved through the decks: Practices, Conversations, Domains of Partnering…

How do we avoid the third pernicious killer of relationships and keep our conversations interesting, engaging, and evolving over time?

Book Review For Better: Science of a New Marriage This is one of the best articles I’ve read about making your love relationship thrive — fighting’s OK; eye-rolling– not so much…and much more…check it out! http://www.aolhealth.com/2010/05/28/tara-parker-pope-for-better/?icid=main Paula Love.

Did you learn to swim by reading a book?  How about dancing? Riiight.  So why are there so many books about relationships?  Don’t get me wrong – I’ve read my share, too.  But while I learned a lot about relationships, everything I learned about how to be in a relationship, I learned through curiosity, experience,…

Paula Love, MS and Jennifer Van Homer, CHIC are Master Certified Strozzi Institute Somatic coaches. Paula Love’s 25-year coaching career has been devoted to working with individuals and couples to create relationships of deep intimacy and meaningful connection. To inquire about live relationship coaching with Paula Love, click here.